Sometimes we couldn't understand people even we know them for five to ten years. But it would be very pleasure if they know that you're trying so hard to understand them even you get hurt in the understanding process.
Don`t blame them even they hurt u so much. At least, they are trying to understand you as they can. Also trying to fix the things up. Please take some consideration if they ask for forgiveness.. They are also a human being who are always make mistakes..